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Scandinavian Bob here hi,

You know those days when you have really stubborn porn addiction urges?

You know those days when they seem to last forever, and they are also pretty aggressive and you start thinking...

"What the hell am I going to do, if they don’t go away? I don’t want to break my streak here!"

Porn addiction cravings...

Well, today I’m going to share a trick from my own rebooting journal. Yeah This is something I did back when I was rebooting and it saved my ass quite a few times.  

But before we start I would like to share another thing with you...

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Alright so what I'm about to share with you is taken from my own rebooting journal that I’m in fact looking at right now. 

It was a Saturday many years ago and I was on day 31 of no PMO.

I woke up in a bad mood and from the very start of the day I was in a pretty bad mood. 

Since it was Saturday I was also free from work and I had made the big mistake of not making any plans for the day. 

Urges to watch porn hit me right from the morning...

Right away from the morning I got my first urges.

I tried to surf them all while checking my emails and, you know, checking my notifications, but the urges were stubborn so I left my computer and went and took a shower.

My urges persisted and in the middle of my shower said, “Fuck, ah damn it!”, and turned the knob all the way to the coldest setting, because maybe a cold shower would kick their ass

I started of a cycle of self-care with a cold shower...

That did the trick, and after the shower I sat down at my computer again because I wanted to try to arrange some music for my band.

But I hadn’t been sitting for more than 5 minutes before the urges attacked me again. 

It was only 9 o'clock and I started to think, “maybe I should just relapse?” 

“No, God damn it! I won’t throw away 30 days of perfect rebooting!”

But man those urges were persistent.

I tried surfing and it helped a bit, but after a while they came back again. 

The Wim Hof breathing to combat porn addiction cravings...

This time I got up and went into my living room, lied down on the floor and did 3 rounds of Wim Hof breathing. That did the trick. 

Finally I can continue with my work at the computer, but guess what, as soon as I sat down the urges were there again. 

Oh man, I was so close to opening up an adult site and I started thinking, "I have the whole day in front of me. I’m never going to make it. I’m going to relapse now. Why not get it out of the way, and I was so close to doing it"

But then I started thinking of that deep feeling of regret I would have tomorrow if I did it.

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The thought of self betrayal...

That feeling of self betrayal. 

So, I stood up, put my jacket on, and glanced at myself, in the mirror. I was kind of wild looking.

I needed a haircut so I said, ok, let’s go get one of those and I jumped in my car and drove to a hair salon.

More self-care fed my identity... 

After the haircut I looked at myself in the mirror and felt better about myself.

I was thinking that it feels so much better taking good care of myself that to literally hurt myself by relapsing, so I thought, "What the hell! Why not continue this self-care?"

So, I went to a store and I bought myself so really nice looking jeans, a pair of shiny brown shoes and a nice looking t shirt. 

Wow, now I felt even better and I started thinking, "Man, now I’m really feeding an identity of that of a person who takes good care of himself. What more can I do?"

I went to the gym...

Well, I had my gym clothes in my car, so while I was out on the town I went to a gym and had a nice 90 minute workout.

And to a restaurant...

After the workout I took a shower again, put my new clothes on, went to a restaurant and treated myself to a good healthy meal. 

After the meal when I stood up I happened to see myself in the mirror and I felt like a million bucks. Just exercised, new hair cut, new clothes.

I wasn’t just trying to be someone.

No, I actually was a person who took good care of himself - and immediately when I stepped out of the restaurant two girls passed me and both of them looked at me in a flirty way. 

Oh man, I felt like a million bucks.

I drove around for a while and then returned home and guess what?

The cravings to watch porn were gone...

I had no more urges that day, and when I woke up the next morning, I still felt like a million bucks.

I felt so good.

And let’s contrast that feeling against how I would have felt if I had spent my whole Saturday bingeing to online porn sites for several hours...

...oh man! 

The key points from my story...

Now, there are two key points in this story.

The first one is the most obvious one…

#1 I left my house and got away from my computer pretty much the whole day.

Had I stayed inside I would have relapsed 100%

So, as I have said so many times before, we need to stay busy and the second key point is…

#2 By going out and doing all those nice things for myself, then I was really feeding a self identity of that of a person who takes good care of himself.

A self identity of that of a person who takes good care of himself will save you from porn carvings...

And this is what we want to do, because if we slowly but surely keep working on a self image like that, it will also help us stay away from relapses in the future.

And so now you say, "Why would it?" 

Well, because the strongest force in human personality is the need to stay consistent with how we define ourselves.

Meaning, if you have an identity of that of a person that takes good care of himself, you would automatically start staying away from relapses, because you know that living a life where you keep consuming adult sites is not good for you.

And this gives you that intrinsic motivation to stay clean.

It's super powerful...

Trust me on this, it is really really powerful. 

Now, obviously, you can’t go out and spend a lot of money every time you have urge, but why not try what I did, in some form, if you run into a day when you seem to have never-ending porn addiction urges.

Because the double win you are getting by strengthening your sel- esteem, in combination with not relapsing to porn, will help you stay strong for many days after that, maybe even weeks.

Alright, consider subscribing for more helpful videos, and as always, I wish you all the best in your journey to become the strongest version of yourself.

Thanks for reading!

-Scandinavian Bob

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